It’s normal for children to feel worried or anxious from time to time, such as when they’re starting school or nursery, or moving to a new area.
Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear – it’s an understandable reaction in children to change or a stressful event.
But for some children, anxiety affects their behaviour and thoughts daily, interfering with their school, home and social life. This is when you may need professional help to tackle it before it becomes a more serious issue.
Anxiety can make a child feel scared, panicky, embarrassed, or ashamed.
Some of the signs to look out for in your child are:
-finding it hard to concentrate
-not sleeping, or waking in the night with bad dreams
-not eating properly
-quickly getting angry or irritable, and being out of control during outbursts
-constantly worrying or having negative thoughts
-feeling tense and fidgety, or using the toilet often
-being clingy all the time (when other children are ok)
-complaining of tummy aches and feeling unwell
Your child may not be old enough to recognise why they’re feeling this way.
The reason for the anxiety (if there is one) will differ depending on the age of the child. Separation anxiety is common in younger children, whereas older children and teenagers tend to worry more about school performance, relationships or health.
Types of anxiety children and teenagers experience
Common types of anxiety in children and teenagers are described below.
A fear or phobia about something specific.
Children are commonly afraid of things like monsters, dogs or water. This is a perfectly normal part of growing up but has the potential to become a phobia (a type of anxiety disorder) when the fear becomes overwhelming and affects your child’s day-to-day life.
Read about phobias
Feeling anxious most of the time for no apparent reason.
While it’s normal for children to frequently have fears and worries, some anxious children may grow up to develop a long-term condition called generalised anxiety disorder when they become a teenager or young adults.
Generalised anxiety disorder causes you to feel anxious about a wide range of situations and issues, rather than one specific event.
People affected by it feel anxious most days and often struggle to remember the last time they felt relaxed.
Separation anxiety means a child worrying about not being with their parent or regular carer.
It is common in young children and normally develops at about six months of age. It can make settling into nursery or school or with a childminder very difficult.
Separation anxiety in older children may be a sign that they’re feeling insecure about something – they could be reacting to changes at home, for example.
Social anxiety is not wanting to go out in public, see friends or take part in activities. Social ‘shyness’ is perfectly normal for some children and teenagers, but it becomes a problem – ‘social anxiety disorder’ – when everyday activities like shopping or speaking on the phone cause intense, overwhelming fear. Children affected by it tend to fear doing or saying something they think will be humiliating.
Social anxiety disorder tends to affect older children who have gone through puberty.
Some children become anxious about going to school, schoolwork, friendships, or bullying, especially if they’re changing school or moving up a level.
They may not always share these worries with you, and instead complain of tummy aches or feeling sick. One of the signs is crying or seeming tired in the morning.
This may be a problem that needs tackling if it is significantly affecting their daily life (see below).
Less common anxiety disorders
Post-traumatic stress disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder are other anxiety disorders that can occasionally affect children but are usually seen in adults.
Anxiety is almost always associated with mental health issues.
A suggestion will be to treat with a diffuser, using the Trauma Blend, Depression / Anxiety Blend, and the following Pure Oils: Frankincense 5ml 10ml, Neroli 5ml 10ml, Geranium Rose 5ml 10ml. Diffuse during the night while sleeping, and during the day while working/studying if and when possible.
You drink a capsule, add 2 drops of each of the above pure oils and fill with an organic carrier oils), or via inhalation.
Apply these pure oils (mixed with an organic carrier oil) over the stomach.